Wedding thing

[bunsen_h]

Yesterday, I had the honour of attending the wedding of commodorified, raynedaze , random, and fairestcat. It was a slightly odd ceremony, combining pagan and Christian elements.  And oh, yeah, there was the "four people getting married" thing; you don't see that every day.  Not yet, anyway.

It was also an opportunity to spend time with friends, including folks I haven't spent enough time with in too long, such as fajrdrako , auriaephiala, ladymondegreen , and akawil.  There was lots of yummy food, with care taken to accommodate a variety of dietary restrictions (which I very much appreciate).

I had my best hat with me, but it didn't seem to me that it quite matched the flavour of the event, so I left it with my jacket.  I need to get more supplies so I can make myself something more appropriate.

My compliments to the happy... quartet?  (I don't know what the appropriate parallel term is: '2' is to 'couple' as '4' is to ..?)  May their lives together be long and joyful.

Comments

[auriaephiala.livejournal.com]

Nah ... I don't think your best hat would have quite fit the tenor of the event...

It was great seeing you yesterday & Saturday -- and it certainly was a lovely wedding.

On a related note, it seems to me that the "baby plush giant squid" necklace might be a marketable product, depending on how work it takes to make them.

[bunsen-h.livejournal.com]

It takes me about two hours to make one of the plush squidlets (I'm not sure what you mean by "necklace"). Roughly: 20 minutes to cut the pieces, 10 minutes of machine stitching, 15 minutes to shred fabric scraps for stuffing, an hour and a quarter of hand-stitching. I could save a bit of time by using some other stuffing, but shredded fabric has a good feel and weight.

There might be some faster way to shred the fabric scraps, and about half of the hand-stitching could be done on a machine with a somewhat smaller presser-foot setup than mine has.

[cortejo.livejournal.com]

you do know about etsy.com right you talented man?

[beable]

I have tried to tell him.

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

Makes me wonder if you were at the same wedding my friend tenacious_snail from Palo Alto presided at.

[bunsen-h.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure, but the main officiant at the ceremony looked a lot like your friend's LJ icon pictures.

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

We shall see what other people turn up! Hmmm...wonder if dewline was there too.

[dewline.livejournal.com]

Sorry, but I didn't get the word...?

[bunsen-h.livejournal.com]

It was a moderately large reception, but it was private, not public. I'm on reasonably friendly terms with three of the four members of the wedding party (and simply don't know the fourth, who only moved to the city recently); I don't know if you know any of them..?

[dewline.livejournal.com]

I've met commodorified maybe twice - but briefly - so far.

[beable]

Yes, she was the officiant.

[con-girl.livejournal.com]

yes

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

Cool! I love connections! Bunsen meets the Snail!

[bunsen-h.livejournal.com]

For extremely loose values of "meeting" that don't require direct interaction, I guess.

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

Well...if you didn't have a chance to meet Les, you missed a beautiful person.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

*blush*

thank you.

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

I just wish I'd managed to connect with you. Sadly...

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

...and, by the way, you did too. Bunsen's a beautiful person as well.

[foms.livejournal.com]

Yes.

[pecunium.livejournal.com]

Yes, Les and I were there: I carried the rings, and did some other stuff. She did the officiating, and made it a much better trip.

[fajrdrako.livejournal.com]

Good hats.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

"quad", "N", and "Z" are ways that I've heard groups of four described, though none of those quite describe these folks.

Your hat would have been at home for pho on Thursday night-- I did a vegetarian chthulhu impression with bean sprouts.

[bunsen-h.livejournal.com]

"quad", "N", and "Z" are ways that I've heard groups of four described, though none of those quite describe these folks.

There are a lot of details about poly that I'm vague on (at best). Do "quad", "N", and "Z" indicate which pairs of people are closely connected, as -- if I'm understanding correctly -- a triangle differs from a "V"?

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

Yes, exactly. Sometimes people define relationships based on romantic involvement. Sometimes based on depth of emotional attachment. Sometimes based on sexual involvement. And, as you may have intuited, sometimes that people that you care about most are not the people that you're bumping uglies with.

I've heard triads referred to as either a V (A and B are both dating C, but not each other) or a delta (A, B, and C are each dating each other).

My own style of poly is a bit more loosely configured, and doesn't tend to include any polyhedrons, so mmmv.

[radargrrl.livejournal.com]

I've heard of examples of serial poly relationships, in which A, B, C and D all get together and grow old, A dies, one of the younger ones brings E and maybe F into the fold, they grow old and ad infinitum. (Not sure if I made any sense here...) Maybe it's pan-dimensional.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

I'm currently dating three people, all men, herein X,Y and Z.

X and I have both dated A, A and I dated B (who also had sex with X).
X, Y and I all have relationships with C. X and C have a relationship that is very low key, sporadic, and sexual. C and I have a relationship that is emotionally intimate and sometimes sexual. Y and C have a relationship that is very similar to the relationship that Y and I.
I am dating Z. Y and Z previously had sexually intimate, emotionally intimate, co-habitting romantic relationships with D.

None of that creates a polygon.

[pecunium.livejournal.com]

That sounds like the Heinleinian "line marriage"